Friends with Benefits
A friends-with-benefits relationship is one in which two people spend time together, are supposed to trust each other, have sex, but it’s not a romantic relationship.
This type of relationship is not simple, because being friends with benefits implies loyalty to the friend and that sex doesn’t negatively influence that friendship. Or could it be that this type of relationship is not based on true friendship, but only on sex?
It’s not easy to determine a set of rules for being friends with benefits, but there is one thing that all relationships have in common: the need for good communication. Therefore, it’s necessary to talk clearly about how that relationship will be and establish some basic guidelines, otherwise things can get quite complicated.
Don’t just accept what your partner wants. Be honest about what you’re looking for and express what you want too. It’s essential that you’re both on the same page.
It has to be a zero-pressure relationship, so no one should project other expectations than sex and friendship on it. If you (or your partner) are getting too attached, then it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship.
One thing that should also be very clear to a couple in a friends-with-benefits relationship is that, when necessary, they should be able to end that relationship without any trauma.
If you are at a point in your life in which you don’t have time for a formal relationship, starting a friends-with-benefits relationship could be very positive. And it’s not a bad choice for someone looking to have a reliable sex life without the commitment of a serious relationship.